Stop Being Available For What Your New Season Can’t Afford!

Written By: Charron Monaye

Growth has a way of changing your availability before it changes your circumstances. One day, you realize you no longer have the energy to explain yourself, entertain distractions, maintain one-sided relationships, or keep showing up for things that require you to abandon yourself.

That is not you becoming distant. That is you becoming discerning.

Every new season of your life will require you to release something from the old one. Sometimes it is a habit. Sometimes it is a relationship. Sometimes it is the version of you that said yes because you were afraid of disappointing people. And sometimes, the hardest thing to release is the belief that you have to remain accessible to everyone simply because they knew you before you grew.

You cannot be available for everything and still be fully available for your growth.

There are conversations you will have to stop having. Not because you think you are better than anyone, but because you finally understand that every conversation does not deserve your energy. There are environments you will outgrow. There are invitations you will decline. There are relationships that may become uncomfortable because the person you are becoming no longer fits the role you played in their life.

And that is okay.

Your new season may require a different relationship with your time. You may have to protect your mornings, your creativity, your peace, your finances, your body, your dreams, and your attention. You may have to stop answering every call, responding to every opinion, and explaining every decision.

Growth often looks like saying, “I cannot be available for that anymore.”

• I cannot be available for constant chaos.
• I cannot be available for relationships that only know how to reach me when they…